Our Family Story Impacts the Cornerstones of Our Lives:
LOVE, CAREER, FINANCES, AND HEALTH

Healing our family wounds is the first step to moving forward.

Family Constellations Therapy begins with the premise: “it did not start with me.”

A Family Constellation will reveal if, and how, we are entangled in a family wound. If we are bound into a family wound, then Family Constellation Method gives us a process to break the cycle and heal.

Marine Sélénée is here to guide you through this healing process.

  • Through recognizing the struggles of our ancestors we acknowledge that our pains are a collective wound that never healed. When we acknowledge our family members for the traumas they experienced, accept them as they are, and give them a place to belong, we experience a deep personal healing.

FAMILY WOUNDS

Every personal wound and pain may be an unconscious, unrecognized, or misunderstood trauma carried on from a previous generation. By exploring not just our own pains, but those of the generations before us, we can uncover patterns where unhealed trauma was passed down from family members before.

Bert Hellinger founded the innovative healing method, Family Constellations Therapy, in the 1950s. It is designed to detect the blocks only our subconscious mind is aware of.

CONSCIOUS & SUBCONSCIOUS

Whether we know what happened in our family history or not, the cycle of trauma and pain is imprinted through the generations and onto us. The patterns we display in each area link back to our unique Family Constellation.

When needs were not met (in our lives or those before us), then on a subconscious level, we repeat unhealthy behavior patterns in order to fill gaps of unmet needs.

In the conscious mind, it can be easy to reject the truth, because we want to analyze it. The power of acknowledging and accepting the complete truth as it exists in our Family Constellation — without conscious thought or theory—will break us free from negative and painful patterns.

By entering the subconscious mind in the Family Constellation Method, we uncover blocks and reveal the root of the pain. Once aware, we are able to heal through a simple process of recognition, awareness, acceptance, and belonging.

Goal of a Constellation

A Family Constellation engages the subconscious to address the underlying symptoms and causes of the problems we are facing in our lives.

Often this involves a combination of ancestral programming, trauma from early childhood, and entanglements.

The purpose of Family Constellations is to bring back together what was once separated. It’s a reconciliation between your childhood and adulthood, inner child and adult self, parents and child, love and misunderstanding.

When we take the steps to heal the foundation of our being — our family unit — we heal every area of our life.

  • Everyone deserves to be seen. Everyone is worthy of belonging. Everyone has a place. We can’t change what happened to us or our family members. But we can acknowledge and accept. Through this awareness, we can also heal.

HOW TRAUMA AFFECTS US

When we experience trauma, shock hits the right side of the brain (the emotional part). When this happens, it disconnects us from the left side of our brain (the logical center). Meaning, the trauma separates our reason from our emotion.

What makes family constellations unique?

Family Constellations Method adds a new dimension to healing trauma. Its unique power is acknowledging that the root of every wound lives in the family system.

Our wounds are deeper than our own story. Someone in our family experienced the same pain. Healing lives here. By unblocking wounds of the past, we create freedom in the present.

The unmet need for love and belonging of a rejected family member created a missing link in the family tree. This unhealed broken bond manifested into repeating behavior patterns still occurring in members of the family unit today.

healing trauma

We do this by reconnecting both sides of the brain that have been separated through trauma, by feeling with logic, and reconciling with reason and emotion.

Success in healing happens when we allow ourselves to feel, and integrate all parts of our being (logic and emotion) through healing past wounds.

In order to come into our wholeness, we must integrate both sides of the brain. The process of Family Constellation allows us to do just that.

  • What we reject we repeat or replay. Rejection lies in our family foundation. We cannot move on fully if our foundation is not seen through the lens of respect and acceptance, because we will rely on someone else to replace whatever is missing, resulting in unhealthy symptoms, patterns and behaviors.

Happy or Right?

Sometimes, we go to therapy seeking a confirmation — to feel right in our suffering — to validate that our mother was wrong, our boss is the problem, and why holding onto anger serves us.

BUT we will never find a true resolution by wanting to be right. The need to be in control in the conscious mind causes resistance to another perception of our story.

Needing to be in control is refusing to grow.

Child Mindset

Because of trauma, we are grownups still thinking with our child mindset. As adults, healing happens when we change our perception from a childlike mentality to understanding the broader story before our lifetime.

By understanding our family members’ story and past we also make peace with ourselves because we realize it’s not about them. Controlling the situation in our conscious mind is rooted in fear, protection, and self-preservation of our deep-rooted stories. Awakening happens when we surrender, become aware of reality, change our perception, and accept what is.

Deep Repair

By exploring not just our own pains, but those of the generations before us, we can uncover patterns where unhealed trauma was passed down from family members before.

When these patterns and symptoms rise from the conscious mind after years of hiding, we see the key to healing our wounds lives less in our own life experiences, and more in the stories of our parents, grandparents and even great grandparents. This integration adds a new dimension to the healing process — creating a pathway for deep repair. We emerge feeling lighter, whole, more genuine versions of ourselves.

  • When we are at ease with our foundation, we blossom fully into the person we are here to be. Healing our family wounds is the first step to moving forward.