afraid of love
I just spent a few days at my friend’s place and she has a cat, Pinceau. Pinceau is all about Love and he is not afraid at all (!) of asking for it. He will interrupt you while doing Pilates, he will jump on your lap while you’re working, or he will happily join you when laying on the sofa. Pinceau reminded me of my dogs and the horses I used to take care of. It struck me that animals are not afraid of asking for and giving Love. They are in the moment, not wondering if the other is going to give back or not. For them it’s already granted.
On the other hand, a friend was telling me about seeing the man of her dreams. They flirted and kissed. He told her he would see her again soon but then later, no news from her prince charming. I asked her, Why don’t you text him? Why don't you open your heart to him? It could be as simple as: I was happy to see you yesterday. Her answer was, No, it has to come from him otherwise she would feel like she was forcing a relationship. But here is the truth, I don't see it as force because you cannot make something happen that is not supposed to. Sure, you can overthink and overcomplicate Love but at the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with sharing your affection and love.
Animals are so much better than us! They give and receive. Human beings are afraid of giving and receiving and then wonder why so many singles are on planet earth. Relationships have become so difficult because we are more in our minds than in our hearts. I’ve never regretted saying out loud how I felt with the men in my life. Honestly I think it’s flattering, even if it's not reciprocated. Since when is sharing Love and believing in Love a weakness? When did we become afraid of asking for what we want?
Feelings are meant to be felt, words of love are meant to be said, and authenticity is the foundation of any successful relationships. By going to back to the simplicity of our feelings and intuition, we can stop wondering and finally build, create something that matters. Being true to yourself, asking for and giving Love, will put you in the position to, for sure, meet The One.
Me and Pinceau promise.
Much Love,
Marine Sélénée