Addiction is a beast

He said, "I stopped drinking a month ago." And as a family, we felt relief—we let ourselves believe, for a moment, that the battle was finally won. Of course, we weren’t naive; we knew that every day would be a victory in itself, that relapse was always a possibility. But on that day, we felt hope. A heavy weight lifted off our shoulders. The family, as a whole, could breathe a little deeper.

A month later, the pressure became too much. The last two days had been overwhelming, and the old coping mechanisms crept back in. He had one bottle —just one, not two or four, as if to prove that it wasn’t that bad. But in his voice, we could hear the disappointment. And just like that, the familiar ache returned to our stomachs.

Yet, in that moment, we knew that giving up on him wasn’t an option. If we did, it would be too late. So we simply said, "It’s okay. It was just one night. Tomorrow, you can start again." Because thirty days is already a victory. And tomorrow, we step back into the arena to fight this beast once more—the beast that whispers that you need something to numb the feelings, to make life bearable.

But we will be here. Trusting him. Trusting his journey. Even on the days when his steps are unsteady, when doubt shakes his resolve—we will stand behind him, believing in him. Because that’s what we do. That’s what family does. We fight together. And we trust each other’s paths.

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Much Love, 
Marine Sélénée