Happiness
It takes courage to be happy, but the truth is, it takes even more when you're not. Draining your life, leaving you feeling empty and misaligned. So maybe today, you choose to be brave—embrace Life, embrace Love, embrace Happiness. That's yours." Marine Sélénée
Are you afraid that happiness will slip through your fingers? How many of us fear happiness, love, joy, or abundance? How many of us choose the conventional path, fearing that if happiness were to disappear, the pain would be unbearable?
Have you ever said no to a woman because you were afraid of being too happy with her—of loving her too much?
Have you ever turned away from a man because he looked at you with such tenderness and respect that it felt unreal?
Did you refuse to travel to the other side of the world because your parents made you feel guilty, reminding you they never had such an opportunity?
Did you turn down a better job because you came from a poor family?
Where does this fear of happiness come from?
It comes from your childhood. From your story.
Were you abandoned or did you feel abandoned by a parent?
Did you grow up hearing toxic beliefs about happiness, money, or beauty?
Was it shameful in your family to be happy, to smile, to laugh?
Was a victim mindset necessary to be seen and acknowledged?
Did you feel guilty for having self-confidence, self-love, or self-esteem?
Were you raised in a religious household where faith was used to shame, guilt, or manipulate you?
When I meet a client for the first time, there is excitement—the promise of healing, of breaking free, of finally being at peace with life and family. But at some point in the journey, guilt and shame arise. The question appears: Do I stay loyal to my family’s suffering, or do I finally reclaim my own life?
Even when we know, deep in our core, that moving forward is right and necessary, breaking free from the past is never easy. We fear it means rejection or betrayal. But in truth, it is an act of love. Your ancestors did not struggle so that you would struggle too. Even if they remained stuck in their own pain, I promise you—they wanted something different for you. Maybe they couldn’t say it out loud. Maybe your parents don’t cheer you on when something great happens in your life. But that has nothing to do with you—it is only their own limitations.
If you don’t do the work to free yourself, it becomes difficult to celebrate the happiness of others because it mirrors your own unhealed wounds. Is that bad or good? No. No one is right or wrong. It’s simply a way of living life.
Family Constellations Therapy offers that freedom. But along the way, you might ask yourself: May I?
Yes, you may.
You may choose differently.
You may bring back what was once lost in your family.
You may be the one to start a new chapter for your entire lineage.
You may be the one to challenge a difficult story and create something better for future generations.
Because even if your past resists change, I guarantee you—your future is calling for it.
So free yourself from the fear. Say yes, even when you’re scared.
Nothing lasts. Everything changes. Everything evolves.
And if we don’t embrace the happiness the Universe keeps placing in our path, the greatest risk we take—the true loss—is living a life that was never really ours.
So, are you ready for happiness?
Much Love,
Marine Sélénée