boys or girls?

Are you from a family of mostly boys or girls? Or is it well-balanced? 

If you think it’s a coincidence that only boys or girls are part of your family, you should think twice. 

The family system is always looking for reparation, so if the tendency in your family is more masculine or feminine, it probably means that there is some deeper healing that needs to take place with men or women. 

It could be early deaths/terrible and painful destinies/being estranged (for example, homosexuality/single mother) and so the family system is trying to create a new foundation where finally, some acknowledgements and recognition can happen while they are alive. 

Another pattern is if a particular disease is prominent in a family, like alcohol or cancer, for example. This is because the root of the disease has not been properly acknowledged yet and unfortunately, out of loyalty, some family members are still carrying that pain. 

There is no curse or malediction, there is just a deep need to be at peace and in order to do so, the family system will always look for reparation and reconciliation. 

From your own perspective, in your family system, what is the repetitive behavior, pattern, disease, situation? 

If you would like to explore it more, I’m here. 

Much Love, 
Marine Sélénée