welcoming life

In the next few weeks, my nephew is going to make his entrance.

A new life.

A new destiny.

A new story.

I keep wondering, who is he going to be? Is he already caring on his shoulders the story of my brother and his wife? Did he already decide about his journey? Can he already feel that he is loved? And for some members of my family, so needed.

I mean isn’t it wonderful that this one, this little one chose this family where I belong to have this human experience.

A few years ago, I kicked my family system pretty radically and brutally. I wanted to know the truth, I wanted to face the reality and like any emotional tsunamis I had an impact on my parents, my brother and my family. I wanted more, I wanted secrets to be out, I wanted to understand my father, I wanted to heal the relationship between men and women. My little girl was hungry of healing and understanding.

I did the job. It was messy, raw and intense. And, then one day I felt that I was rebirthing in MY life, MY story, MY identity. Not the one that was given to me by my family but the one that I decided to choose living.

So, maybe we got two lives, as the saying says: The first one is the one that your parents gave you and then the other one is the one that you choose to live.

And, I do feel that when you enter the field of a constellation or any types of healing, you actually make the choice to be reborn at some point. The rebirth of your true self because I actually don’t think it is possible to do it within your family as much as they can love you, I think the true birth is when you finally deploy your own wings and decide on how you want to live your life.

And, it takes gut and courage to do so.

Breaking free from a system that maybe is not adapted to your personal growth.

Breaking free from a belief system that does not match ours.

Breaking free from values that do not match ours.

Breaking free from a type of love that is not reassuring for us.

And, yes sometimes there is a chance that our family won’t understand and as anything that we don’t understand, we have the tendency to reject it. Does it say more about them or us? Them. You will forever belong. Your life will be forever part of a family system and whoever you choose to be, keep in mind that your life was always a gift for the world and your family.

May you always be proud of yourself and so your life.

With Love,

Marine Sélénée