Fifteen years ago, on May 19th 2009, my first husband was arrested in Miami for domestic violence while I was in Los Angeles, trying to heal. As much as that time of my life was hard, it was also the beginning of finding myself. The beginning of being a woman.

What happened between men and women? Between the masculine and feminine? The imbalance of masculine and feminine has been a recurring theme in my practice, along with my friends too, and within my own personal journey. I’m not saying that I got everything figured out, however, I do feel that I have a sense of what has been happening between us.

Whatever you did not understand and/or heal with your parents, your love life will be the playground of replaying that dynamic over and over again until you finally heal from it. The trick here is that your partner won’t be able to represent either of your parents, but you will be the one healing the dynamic within yourself by becoming the parent that your inner child wishes they could’ve had. 

I recently worked with a new client that despite working very hard she was still feeling blocked in her abundance. After asking her a few questions about her family story, I started seeing another angle that could prevent her from manifesting her dream job and feeling overall abundant again. 

The past weekend I hosted a Family Constellations workshop and the theme of the day was reconnecting with and respecting the masculine. One of the participants said to the masculine “But, I need you.” And, the masculine replied “Me too.” We all want the same thing and most of the time, we project on to each other our needs and expectations.

I just spent a few days at my friend’s place and she has a cat, Pinceau. Pinceau is all about Love and he is not afraid at all (!) of asking for it. He will interrupt you while doing Pilates, he will jump on your lap while you’re working, or he will happily join you when laying on the sofa. Pinceau reminded me of my dogs and the horses I used to take care of. It struck me that animals are not afraid of asking for and giving Love. They are in the moment, not wondering if the other is going to give back or not. For them it’s already granted.